This was it. The west gate of a hospital near us. Ironically, from our old apartment, we could see this hospital from our back window. It's an easy bike ride away.
A finding place means that a baby has been left. Abandoned. Babies are left at all kinds of places...but almost always where they can be found. Hospitals are very common as are police stations. It is not unusual for the parents to be watching to make sure their babies are okay. Our own little guy was left at a hospital. His parents checked him in...and then left. I've been in a the hospital with him when he was so sick last fall. It would have been easy to just walk out. Parents of special needs kids often leave them in hospitals in the hopes that they will get the care that they need.
Why do parents do it? The reason's are as varied as the parents. Lack of resources. A second child that is going to bring a large fine. A child with special needs that the parent can not afford. Mythology and superstition about certain special needs. A girl when the family needed a boy. Parents who simply don't want to child that was born to them. All sad reasons.
When children are abandoned and to be adopted, a finding ad will be placed in the newspaper. I understand the reasoning behind this but it strikes me as sad and odd. These children are not lost, like a puppy or cat. They are....for lack of a better word...abandoned.
Look at that picture and imagine what it felt to leave your child there. Were they afraid of getting caught? It's a crime to abandon a child. What were they thinking or feeling when they left. Was it sadness? Relief? Hope? All of the above?
A finding place means that a baby was found. For this little baby found here, there is a happy ending. She has a sweet family who loves and cares for her. She is one of the few that has this kind of happy ending.
As we have entered this world of orphans and foster care and adoption, I have been on a sharp learning curve. I had no idea how few orphans are actually orphans..most have parents somewhere. I had no idea how long and complicated the adoption process was. The biggest thing that I have learned was that the approach must be multi-faceted. More and better foster care is a good place to start. Less complications with adoptions. More domestic adoption. Better structures in place for birth families who have children with special needs.
What I do know is that the abandoned need to be found and that children belong in families. I will believe that forever.